What Helps Our Relationships
Each partner's relationship life experience is assessed and the therapeutic needs explained and mapped out, all within the first session. Importantly, I take sides against all pain giving behaviors, especially where one partner's issue(s) is essentially the greater cause of the relationship dysfunction."Neutrality," a common therapeutic error, is neither a part of my practice methods nor helpful to most couples. If a partner is acting out in any fashion I will take the matter to task and deal with it squarely. Without such frank discussion, many distressed couples experience increasing frustration with one another (and often with the therapeutic process), leading many to premature dissolution without getting the help they needed.
Needless to say, not all relationships are salvageable. Some, for the health and well-being of one or both partners, should end with fresh starts begun. Some couples begin therapy effectively stuck in a loveless relationship. Under these circumstances I help guide the couples to end their relationship with grace and dignity for all concerned.